How to re-write an emotional program that you don't like
It occurred to me during a conversation with my wife about the five times we were violently assaulted in our home in 2017 and 2018, that we weren't wired up the same. Sorry, that was a lot for one sentence. Let me back up a bit.
in the late fall and winter of 2017 and 2018, we had been violently attacked in our home 5 times. Yes, five. It was a strange time, but the crux of the story wasn't the violent attacks, it was what occurred to me in the aftermath that changed my life.
You see, my wife and I were elbow to elbow when we experienced the attacks. We were exposed to the exact same information. Yet, she was sad and crying because of what she had experienced. I, on the other hand, was over the top angry about being attacked in my own home. Both were reasonable emotional responses, I suppose, but they weren't the same. She was sad. I was angry.
During our chat, I asked her why she was sad, because I was angry. She asked me why I was angry...she was sad.
In that moment, it occurred to me that it was almost as if she had a program running in her head that essentially said, IF you experience a violent attack, THEN you should experience sadness.
My emotional program was written a bit differently. IF you experience a violent attack, THEN you should become angry. Fascinating. Yeah, weird too, I know...to be fascinated by such things.
Here's the take-home: we all have an emotional program...and it helps us SURVIVE. I am convinced that our creator, in his infinite wisdom, created us with incredible survival skills, including the rapid creation of a program for survival that we can use for the rest of our lives to help us...survive. Whatever we SURVIVE before the age of 5 years old goes into that program and we spend the rest of our lives living out the emotional-level program that was written by our 5-year-old self. And it's useful...until it isn't.
We have all seen battered women go from one abusive relationship to another, sometimes their whole lives until, that is, they wake up in the hospital or an abuser injures her children or something else occurs to cause her to wake up to the fact that she MUST make different choices...or die. We now understand that she is making these choices unconsciously because SOMEWHERE before the age of 7 years old, she experienced abuse...and survived it. That abuse went into her survival file and stayed there her whole life until SHE decided that program wasn't serving her anymore and she re-wrote it.
In 2020, I discovered EFT, also known as emotional freedom technique tapping, and used it to release some anxiety and upset over what was happening in the wake of everything that was happening in 2020. I felt a shift. A big one. You can hear more about it in this week's podcast episode or hear about it in our free EFT program.
I took this powerful tool into my clinic and started using it on people who couldn't take pills, were scared before surgery or before a procedure and it worked super fast, was super effective and appeared to cause permanent change.
This was a game-changer for me. And, as I discovered more and more of these emotional re-programming techniques, it made it super easy in 2023 for me to take my medical license off the wall and remove myself from the mess we call medicine. I decided to use the remainder of my professional career teaching these powerful techniques to relieve suffering in an area of medicine we all recognize as a problem, but are nearly powerless and without effective tools...emotional issues.
Today, we use these tools to help people overcome emotional trauma, turn horrible events and even diagnoses into the launching pad for creating an entirely new life by consciously releasing the unconscious emotional program that isn't serving us at the highest possible levels and installing a more resourceful program in it's place. The process is simple. I didn't say it was easy. That's why we created the EFT program and so many other support programs for people facing challenging situations in their lives.
Here's the really awesome news: Suffering is now (and always has been) optional. But today, we have the tools to make it much, much easier.
Here is a good place to start: https://www.docofunlock.com/access-eft-doc-of-unlock
-Doc
